Navigating the Thorny Paths of Emotions: A Journey Through Pain and Growth

Not all roads in life are smooth and easy. Some are lined with thorns, while others are strewn with cactus beds. In these challenging circumstances, how do we navigate the difficult pathways? How do we embrace pain and deal with a spectrum of emotions?

We often teach children to imagine their emotions as a parade of monsters—fear, pain, anger, guilt—all marching in front of them. The goal is to observe these emotions without getting overwhelmed, to let them pass by, acknowledge them, and then say goodbye. But is it really that simple?

If adults struggle with managing their emotions, it’s no wonder children find it challenging too. Teaching emotional resilience and actually practicing it are two distinct things. Through my own experiences and learning from my kids, I've come to understand that it's okay to feel bad, to cry, and to experience the full range of emotions, even the difficult ones. This pain is as integral to your journey as the moments of joy and pleasure.

Life is rarely a straight line; it's full of twists and turns, highs and lows. Embracing pain is not just a part of the human experience but also a vital component of personal and spiritual growth. For some, pain marks the beginning of a journey toward self-discovery and spiritual awakening. For others, it serves as a signal to change direction and find a more fulfilling path.

The key is to feel your emotions, embrace them, and let them guide you rather than trying to escape them. Every emotion has its purpose and, in time, will reveal its lessons. Accepting and integrating these experiences is essential for your growth and evolution.

So, be present with your emotions. Feel them deeply, cry if you need to, and understand that they are all part of a grander process. Embrace the journey and enjoy the unfolding show of your personal evolution.

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Monday, August 12, 2024 at 11:35 AM , 0 Comments

After a while - Veronica A. Shoffstall

After a while you learn the subtle difference between holding a hand and chaining a soul.

And you learn that love doesn't mean leaning and company doesn't mean security.

And you begin to learn that kisses aren't contracts and presents aren't promises.

And you begin to accept your defeats with your head up and your eyes ahead, with the grace of an adult, not the grief of a child.

And you learn to build all your roads on today because tomorrow's ground is too uncertain for plans, and futures have a way of falling down in mid-flight. .

After a while you learn that even sunshine burns if you get too much.

So you plant your own garden and decorate your own soul, instead of waiting for someone to leave you flowers.

And you learn that you really can endure;
You really are strong, you really do have worth.
And you learn, and you learn
With every goodbye you learn.

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Wednesday, June 17, 2015 at 11:47 AM , 0 Comments

Memories behind, life ahead !

Clueless ! don't know from where to start ! Well, that's not something I am not good at. But this time, its been over an year, and life has changed in all possible ways.

You change with time, situations. I thought, Ah, I proudly thought that I will probably end up going against nature. But well, that's not really possible & time managed to change me ! :)

Someone told me someday, 'we never know when we are making a memory'. Blame it on 'hey days' or my carefree nature, I never took these words seriously. Today, though, I value them. Not just value, I adore the essence, depth, meaning & the crux that lies inside them.

A lot can be written about life, and the more you write, the less it is. A journey, that's tough, yet so beautiful. Challenging, yet motivating. Tough, yet so simple. When I stop here at this moment & look back, I see hopes, dreams, challenges, faith, company, loneliness - all of them fulfilled & unfulfilled. There is this dialogue in one of the KJo movies which says: "yaadein mithai ke dibbe ki taraah hoti hain, ek baar khula to sirf ek tukda nahi kha paaoge". Truly said !

Good & bad thing about memories: they get framed in some corner of your mind, like forever & you can cherish/recall them whenever you want to. No humans act different. I do the same. Wonder though, if that's how it really should be.

In order to create more space in room, we vacate the old previous stuff. Memories shall be treated no different. In order to let new things come to you and stay with you in a healthy way, you need to delete the bad phase of old memories & keep the good phase at a corner somewhere, assigning it the least priority. Giving your utmost priority to new things, opportunities, people and even places, is probably the only way to live a happy & content life. Easy said than done. This holds true for me as well, because I am someone who actually lives in past & thinks about future most of the times. But trust me, this is my experience with life that I could actually fetch nothing fruitful out of it. 

Except a realization that only when you live in present, you actually start enjoying your life completely !






 

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Sunday, February 23, 2014 at 11:34 PM , 0 Comments

And this one goes to 2014 !

A chilled saturday evening in Delhi. Month of January. First impression ? - Dinner in CP? Barbeque night with some peppy numbers? A high class club night?  Or a lazy person in razaai? Hah..i belong to the last category :) Dinner in CP is difficult when you have a lazy dad ;) # Luv you Paa # Barbeque night, thats planned for lohri(touchwood) and what did I say next? A saturday disco/club night? Hahaha...with a family person like me, thats something  totally out of scope :P I hate booze and buzz ! Do you seriously need to go to a smokey crowded zone, dance in front of strangers, drink some most pathetic stuff and then get a high? Well, a happy person like me doesn't. Anyways, the last and the most comfortable one - razai, me, bed, good food, family talks and chatter boxes all around, that makes for a perfect weekend and an imperfect me :P

Moving next, the year has changed to 2014. Exited? I am sure most of us have some of 'those' resolutions in our mind. Some of us dont beleive in resolutions. Those who do, rarely follow them :) Nevermind, we should strive hard n hope for the best. My new year resultion is to follow all my previous resolutions this time ;) :P That sounds honest, yet smart :) But on a serious note, I want to be more strong headed, more committed and more dedicated to things I strive for, keeping all those negative energies aside.

Hmmm, so talking about the year, the start has been a historical one. IIT Kharagpur alumini and ex IRS, has been appointed 'for the people, by the people' as Delhi's CM on public demand. Delhi ki Aam Junta couldn't be more happy. Kejriwal sir, kudos to you. Not because you have come with half electricity rates and free water. Not because you have been traveling in metros and autos. And not because people compare you with Anil Kapoor's role in Nayak. I am sure, any newbie will try his level best to leave those footprints. Everybody knows that first impression lasts long. And being an IITn and ex IRS that you are, I expect that you know things a lot more as you have seen life from intelligent and privledged perspective. My point here is that I see a revolution, even if its on the name of 'Aam Aadmi'. It feels totally incredible to see kids, house wives, workers and even the uneducated class, discussing politics. Be it metros, offices, airports or autos, everybody is glued to politics. Kejriwal has replaced Sachin Tendulkar somewhere ;) Isn't it great? If I talk about myself, I see a difference in me. Not that I was never interested in stuff like this before, infact, I have always tried to be on the updated side of the crowd. But, I still feel, this is different version altogether. In these few days, I have googled most about constitution of india, janlokpal, INA and what not? Thanks to my dad and google, I know a lot more about politics now than I ever knew before. I surely feel great about this whole episode. I feel happy about the changed me, the overall changed perspective, curiosity and maturity among people - CITIZENS to be precise. Just hope that this really continues and doesn't become yet another periodic fashion trend. Fingers crossed :)

Well, this was about Delhi. How about India? After all, we all are Indians first. Will NaMo's dream finally come true? Will we finally see a dumdaar, jaandaar and shaandaar PM? One who can take decisions on his own and depends less on 'Lady Luck'? God only knows. He is the big boss for all of us. Wait and watch is the key.

Enough of politics. Coming to sports, ICICI World Cup T20 is on cards. AND...There is a lot more in kitty :) 2014 comes with FIFA worldcup. So, all you football fans out there, you guys have a lot in store this year. Get ready for that Shakira dance number..once again :) # In love with Waka Waka #

What else ? Science? movies? books? art? Well, I am not working here as a freelancer reporter guys :) Keep on reading newspaper for more updates ;) Let them do rest of the work :P haha. To be honest, this is what I remember for now :P Its midnight and I really am feeling sleepy. I guess time for me to doze off ! zzzzz :P

Hey wait wait wait...last and the most important one, I hope from all my heart and soul, that this year comes with a lot more of happiness, exitement, luck and opportunities for all of us. Our families live 1000 more years and we do our level best to see that special smile on their face. We stay connected to our family, extended families and friends and get settled in life ;) Do good, be good, feel good should be the agenda :) So, Have fun, Stay blessed, Stay loved. And btw, love yourself. Thats really really important - even if it makes you a little self absorbed :) You need to love yourself to spread those smiles around. Its all about vibes after all. Wishing you all a happy 2014 :) Adios.

#Signoff !




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Saturday, January 4, 2014 at 11:04 AM , 0 Comments

Good old days...

With may, comes the nostalgic feel. Of PLs, practicals & late night study zeals.

When life was nothing but all about mugging. The not so visible books soon started grilling.

Knowledge Transfer was at its best. On phones, in halls and balconies used to serve the rest. :P

Topics were nothing but pizza slices. They were cut, they were shared and were eaten like mices :)) 

Good old days, they always fail to fade. Which at that point of tym, looked no less than a decade.


Neha 







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Wednesday, May 2, 2012 at 10:15 AM , 2 Comments

Love actually...

Out of 100% people, if you ask what love actually is, 90% would fail to answer for sure. And yes, by the way, I consider myself a part of that 90 % crowd as well. Now comes the strange part of it. There is a unit to measure everything. Volume, mass, weight, force and even earthquake. All being those sci-fi geeky words. But there is no unit to measure feelings, emotions, care and our such a light term 'love' :) I guess even scientists preffered not to be a part of controversies, what say :P. Btw, anyone here, in for a patent? Buoy, you definately have a chance. So why not dance :)

Love can not be defined in type, shape and size. Neither it happens for a reason or with a season. Still people never fail to ask their near and dear ones. Girl's favorite being 'why you love me ? ' n yes, next one, though not ordinary, but still exist in some cases, mostly in case of guys ' when will you love me ? ' :D Strange. But can't help. Thats how it is, according to some & thats how it is suppossed to be, according to most of those 'some'. May be thats what is love actually !

But what I personally feel, is that the one who defines it, will always fail to understand its worth and zeal. In a typical mathematician's term, its e to the power x , can neither be differentiated nor can be integrated :)) or simply x/0. That is: Undefined. And a programmer should definately thank mathematicians for DEFINING it UNDEFINED,  otherwise, even this would have been used as a data type in some or the other programming language. Bhaskara, you are our saviour ;) 

But yes, the best part of it is that you can definately feel its vibes, its presence. A worried you, feeling lonely in a new city and suddenly getting call from your dad, who encourages you to fight without actually speaking it, brings a smile on your face and strength in your act. Thats love.

A sick you, getting call from your mother, and even without you telling her about the whole story, she just gets to know every bit of it. Thats love :))

Your siblings fighting with you, for illogical and non sense things, is love again, though its one of its own kind ;)

Now, this one for those who are into comittment, relationship and stuff. Though m not the one experiencing it, can definately relate it to THE people around :P. Tired you coming back from office, and suddenly getting call from your loved one, asking about your day, and then relaxing you with sweet ( and even bitter sayings :D ) is love :) And yeah, for your kind information, he getting jealous of other male friends around you, is love as well :)) So all you worried gals, all you need to do is take a chill pill on this !

All in all, its all about love and its all about faith in love. Because, not everything seems perfect, when defined. Few things always look better or best, when felt :))


-Neha

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Tuesday, February 7, 2012 at 10:12 AM , 2 Comments

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